Case in point...I know a woman, whom dated (not really dated, but you get my drift) a man for over half his marriage. He told her countless times that he wanted to be with her...she became pregnant, not once, twice, but three times. She aborted the pregnancies because he made her feel that it would be too hard on them, she obliged to his every wish. Needless to say, he never left his wife and continued to make excuses of why they couldn't be together at different points in time.
This went on for years and years, finally the wife found out about the affair and she filed for a separation. This could have been the his big break from the woman that has caused him so much grief, but we all know that was not the case. The other woman was ecstatic about the news because now she could have this man that she wanted so bad, NOT!!! He begged his wife to not leave him...this has me wondering, why would he begged the person that has been giving him so much grief and that has made his life miserable, to not leave. Oh, that's it, it is because he lied to the other woman to make her feel for him.
Women tend to get caught up in the "I can save him" or "I am the better woman for him" or "She doesn't know him like I do", etc. The truth to the matter is, you are the one who is getting used. He is playing a game where you are the pun. He is going to tell you whatever he needs just to keep you lingering and at bay...like the knight on a horse at the mote (look up medieval story).
It is sad, as I said, but these things happen and will continue to happen as long as people let other people do this. It is called ENABLING. Any person has the power at any given time to stop the behavior. So if you one of the ones whom likes to play the game or feel sucked in, I ask that you know your role and follow suit...don't try to be the wife if you are the mistress and don't try to be the girlfriend if you are just a booty call, just saying!!!
Oh, the ending to the story that I started. The wife ended up divorcing the husband, the mistress was happy, until she found out that he had proposed to another woman and spent her money on countless others. He beat her because he blames her for his marriage ending, but she claims to still love him. Fast forwarding...she did get her man and the baby that she so longed for, she even married him. I think big mistake, but to each its own...but she wants to try and control the situation by making all kinds of demands and speaking bad of the ex-wife. She doesn't see that she played a part in why the ex-wife doesn't care for her. She thinks that she has no blame in the situation. The catch is that she is insecure with him now. So although she got her man, what price is she having to pay???
